Oh god yes, the rural/urban gap! My personal theory is that living in a rural area lowers your relative class by at least 5 degrees -- i mean, even if you're rural wealthy / upper-class you still have the stink of cow shit (apt metaphor!) on you. Unless you're wealthy and choose to move to the country as a 2nd home, but then you're "not from around here" and that, again, is another quite different thing.

Thank you so much for posting this and the bravery to unpack in public!! I, personally, especially appreciate it as seems you and i have a lot of overlap. Tho' interestingly, i have a quite different attitude when it comes to dealing with people up-class (i just made that up -- i hope it works), which is basically, "fuck them, they can take me as i am or not, i don't much care." But i think that's more being a Granddaughter of Liz than anything else. My grandmother was, uh, pretty stubborn and contrarian. :D