But my refusal to meet normative gender standards differs from that because of my desire for radical change, to be seen outside where I was assigned in the binary system. A butch woman still wants to be seen as a woman, what she was assigned.

Yeah, this. And also the fact that I can fucking be genderqueer wearing a ruffled skirt even though people would see me & think "female." I am so annoyed by the whole "you can only be genderqueer if you look 'androgynous' [for some narrow definition of the term]!" thing. Clothes don't have inherent gender & genderqueerness isn't just about presentation (I mean, shit, think of people who, for safety reasons, can't present, genderwise, the way they want--a problem not limited to genderqueer people obvs).